Today I will start a new series on self-care. Something that we don't always remember to focus on when we get busy or when life gets hard. Over the next few weeks, I will be guiding you through different techniques on self-care in your own life.
The Importance of Self-Care
Over a cup of coffee, a new friend of mine began telling me about some concerning physical symptoms she was experiencing. I knew she was a very busy woman, so I asked her what kind of self-care she did.
She shook her head. “I don’t do any. I don’t believe in it!”
“Oh?” I said, “why not?”
“Because… you just do life, and everyone’s life is hard.”
Her mindset is common to many: Because life is hard for everyone, it isn’t ok to take a break and care for myself and my own needs. So many people have a harder life than I do, so shouldn’t have the right to care for myself, even when I need it.
The truth is, self-care is something we ALL need. While some seasons of life may require more self-care than others, the idea of consistently paying attention to our inner life and our physical body is a really important part of living a healthy life.
So what is self-care?
I like this definition:
Taking proper care of yourself and treating yourself as kindly as you treat others.
Before we go any further, ask yourself this question:
What is my attitude towards self-care?
I’d guess your answers span the range from I don’t believe in it… to ...It is a daily part of my living.
I encourage you to think of 3 or 4 things that help you feel better when life gets stressful or difficult. Allow yourself to consider what you need.
Self-care is important because it:
Thanks for reading this first post in our self-care series. I’ll be building on these ideas over the next few weeks. Understanding your individual needs is an important part of living a self-compassionate life.
Until next time...
Donna Durham, MMFT
Owner & Co-Founder