Braving the Wilderness
Chapter 2 - Blog 2
My favorite part of Chapter 2 is the part about “Braving Skills”. Learning how to be brave and experience the discomfort of standing alone is a skill we seriously need to embrace in our culture. From page 38...
Boundaries - You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no.
Reliability - You do what you say you’ll do. This means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.
Accountability - You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.
Vault - You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.
Integrity - You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast or and easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.
Nonjudgement - I can ask for what I need, you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how you feel without judgment.
Generosity - You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.
What is your greatest growth area out of all of these braving skills?
My biggest growth area is reliability. I am not always aware of my limitations. I tend to make promises about doing things in a certain amount of time but overestimate what I can actually accomplish. It’s hard for me to let people down and say “no” or “not now”.
The times I do set realistic goals I really like the way it feels. I am trying to get better at this.
I want to hear from you. How are your braving skils?
Donna Durham, MMFT